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Friday, December 5, 2008
Moms and Sons
So, Carson has been very funny about me lately and I'm just wondering if anyone else has encountered this. By funny, I mean possessive. It started out by him telling me that he didn't want me to wear my wedding ring - because he didn't want me to "marry dad". I tried to explain to him that Dad and I were married almost 15 years ago and that I am already married to dad...so the wedding ring won't change that. Then he started taking my wedding ring and trying to hide it. One night, my niece was over to babysit because Trent and I were going to go out. Carson through a fit. He was crying and clinging to me and saying that he didn't want me to go. Finally, I took off my ring and put it in my coat pocket...and he was fine after that. Is this weird or normal??? Also, he doesn't like me sitting next to Trent on the couch, doesn't like Trent putting his arms around me. etc. Last night I went into the spare bedroom (which is where we have all of the Christmas presents and also were Trent can lock himself in to work on his homework). Trent was in there doing homework and I went in to look through some of the Christmas things that I had bought. When I came out, Carson was so serious looking and he asked me if I had "kissed Daddy" when I was in there. This is kind of freaking me out. When I ask him why he doesn't want me to be married to dad, he says because he wants me to be married to him. I keep trying to explain that I'm his mom and can't be married to him and that even if I wasn't married to daddy, that I still couldn't be married to him. I'm sure that Freud would have something to say about this! I just hope that it's some cute stage that he's going through and that he just loves his mom! I know that he loves Trent because he is always telling daddy that he loves him...so I really don't think that's the issue...I'm sure that it's just a mom and son thing. Help! Am I reading too much into this?
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I think he just loves his mommy! I think it's sweet that he wants to be married to you. I bet he just doesn't totally understand the whole marriage thing and you're just his favorite girl! The whole wedding ring thing is hilarious. What a funny kid!
Oh my gosh!! Sorry, can't help you out here. I think it's pretty cute and dang funny! Sorry, no help from me! Carson....you are a riot!
Tracy, I have a great book I use to read when things became crazy with the boys. It is called "So you want to raise a boy.?" By none other then Cleon Skousen. It was old when I used it so it a lot older even today but has some good stuff in it.
For age 5 he says this....
A Mama's Boy-
Under normal circumstances a 5 year old will display a particularly warm attachment to his mother. He is very concerned if he cannot find her when he comes in from play. He wants a close working relationship with his mom and constant assurance of her approval. When things go wrong he wants her physical and spiritual medication. He likes her to talk with him, to explain things, and tell him about the multitude of exciting mysterious things in life. His dependence on his mom is apparent when he has a nightmare. He may resist all efforts of his father to comfort him and will insist that his mother take over. This may be disturbing to a father but it is only a characteristic of the age. The love of a 5 year old son for his dad can be perfectly normal and still he will call on his mom when trouble arises. Ten years hence it will be different.
A mother notices that a boy at this age likes to go places with her. It may be to the store or just walking over to the neighbor's. A boy like to feel a chummy relationship with his mom, a feeling of sharing and doing things together. If a mother is wise she will take advantage of this. In the normal course of events it may not last long. It is between 5 and 6 that a mother may find her son sharing his love more completely than at any other stage of his life.
Oh man, that's a crack up! I'm sure it's just a phase. Pretty funny. He obviously loves you A LOT!
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